Best Way to Make Marital Choice

Here is a quick story of a lady who has been married for over a year but regrets every moment in the marriage.

The lady was best among her friends in the university , it came to past in her year three in the school that a friend of hers introduced a guy to her and from thence she begins to date the guy and the guy promised her everything including marriage. Though the guy eventually married her but she never enjoys a day in the marriage.

I have come to know that the best referral you need when you are about to make the choice of who to marry is not a man but God. The choice of God is always the surest and secure choice.

When God makes a choice for you He commits Himself to the relationship and stands by you to ensure the relationship or marriage is secured and saved.

A lady came to me some years ago and asked: “Can my friend refer someone to me for marriage?”. My answer to her was a capital “YES” but two things should come into mind. The person may be the right person and secondly, the person may not be the right person for you to marry.

Therefore, when someone is being referred to you for marriage, you must be wise to go back and ask God who has the manual to your marriage in prayer and find out if this person is really the person for you.

Don’t just accept anyone proposal because he or she is introduced to you by your parents, friends, relatives or pastor but first approach God to ascertain the consent of God concerning the person.

A pastor may refer someone to you but the person may lack the oil to manage a home in marriage.

You are most responsible for every choice or decision you made. No one will claim responsibility for the mistake the person they referred to you made. You will be left alone to bear the consequence.

When Samuel got into the house of Jesse to anoint one of the children as king of Israel, Jesse referred Shaman and others to Samuel but Samuel was wise to consult the Lord if any of them was the right person but the Lord said NO until David arrived.

The person may look like the best for you in the sight of the referral but is he or she the best choice for God?

Even when someone was referred to you, you are still the one who should decide if this person has what it takes to sail in the boat of your life and marriage with you.

The best matchmaker I know is God. Receive counsel from people around, consult marriage counsellors for advice but when its time to make the choice, I advise you to consult God .